Quality time without the other barging in.
Usually on the way home from school in the car I ask about their days and I have to screen out the noise of one as the other answers the questions. It's like they cannot bear not being the centre of attention and that even if it is Mum, or maybe because it is me, they have to ensure the light of my regard is shining on them and not on the other. I find it exhausting trying to be fair and I hate myself for having to
"I am not listening to you I am talking to your brother."
"I will talk to you later!"
"Be quiet I am trying to listen!"
Or else just ignoring them.
Sometimes it gets so bad I switch on the radio or CD and turn up the volume really, really, loud so I can hear neither of them.
I've just started to pop one in the front, now that they are big enough, so that they are separated. It stops the petty squabbling and silliness which more often than not colours our car journeys and makes my life hell. It also allows me to talk to each boy as an individual rather than the package which is "The Boys". I am hoping it will make my life seem less fraught or failing that I will be able to drive without getting a headache!