You are all geared up for a fight, you want a fight. “Bring it on!” you say. You are prepared. You know exactly what to say and how to react, heck you’ve even got the clothes right for once and then…you get metaphorically blown out of the water not by their superior fighting, their clever one liners or cruel twist of logic but just by them being nice!
It is NOT meant to happen. The person you’ve geared yourself up to have a showdown with is not meant to be nice, not now, not today.
Heck for years you have been longing to give them a piece of your mind and finally, after months of building yourself up to it, they start being nice.
OOOhhhh! How I hate that word N.I.C.E.!
Innate politeness means you cannot possibly be nasty when they are being nice. It is NOT done. So you have to be nice back, really nice back - Super Nice indeed. You know, say it like you mean it sort of thing.
The frustration builds up inside and you keep smiling while muttering over and over to yourself, like Dory in Finding Nemo: “Just keep smiling! Just keep smiling!”
The opportunity for a confrontation, which you have been pushing for like forever, recedes as quickly as a rolling mist in the sun, leaving you twitchy, disappointed and cross with yourself.
And there’s also a lingering slightly unpleasant feeling that quite possibly the person you wanted to give a piece of your mind to has outmanouevered you as easily as an bird would a new born kitten.
All that time and effort gone to waste, nothing to show for it at all but perhaps there is? For the best way to confound your enemies and even your friends could be as simple as being nice.